feelings put to the test
Posted on 2010-08-25 01:02:10 by aloha
My friend, can say a close friend, wrote this to me on msn
" , i very sad leh.. dono why i have a feeling im like being made used of. when im needed im being treasure, and when im not needed.. my existance is like nil. i know things would turn out this way but i don care i just tot i could handle it. in the end as time drags on things get complicated. aiiya i aso dono what im saying to u, but in short i can only say i feel hurt. really"
She was at overseas during this period of time, so i couldn't really know what exactly happened. but she took time to write this to me, so i guess i may be someone, counted as important to her?
I know that something is not right at that time, so i read through the statement over and over again, trying to infer something from it. But since me and her knew each other for like few months only, i cannot tell what is wrong, moreover ask her what's wrong. I mean, privacy leh, even out of curiosity, also not good to ask so much right?
But that's not the case you see.
It's been 2weeks since she wrote that to me. And here now, im feeling the same way as she do.
Sometimes when i sit facing my laptop, looking at either msn contacts, checking who is online, hoping that the person i want to talk to is online, or if the person is online, hoping that the person will want to initiate a chat with me. I don't like to initiate a chat with people, unless i know we got things to talk about because i dont really like to disturb others, that's why. Or checking fb, see what people are posting, etc. i feel like "hey, should i get myself involved?"
I dont know whether do people treat me as their friends or like what my friend said, being treasured when need, but when not needed, my existence is nil? I got a strong feeling that im always being used for, but stubborn me, just feel that, "its ok" "im doing what i need to do"
maybe im just thinking too much, am i?
well, i'll see how things will work for the time being.
But girls out there, tell me from your own view, what does the paragraph means to you when writing to a close friend
thanks for your help :D
Comment:
aixour said the following on 25-08-10 11:08
I am also a person who do not initiate a chat, nor giving any comment to other's shout out. Even to my close friends, I also rarely give comment. I don't know why would I do that, but I feel that our although our current technology help us to know our whereabout and feelings of our friends. But giving a short comment to a problem doesn't seem to be a right way of communication.
For your friend that is oversea, perhaps you could write her a email, perhaps a letter would be even better. Something that is written with all your heart and sincerity can make her feel better, thinking that there is still someone who are there for her. Sending long letters or email could also help each other to learn more about each other and giving more advice or suggestion to your friend's situation. While she is out there oversea living alone, your letter would be her comfort and her everyday hope for her.
Hope this suggestion help :)
aloha said the following on 25-08-10 11:58
Hey! thanks for your help. appreciated it a lot. actually she was oversea at the point of time, now she is back in sg. but like what you've suggested, i should ask her what's happening? is that what you mean?
I am v worried about this friend of mine cos we dont see each other that often. So i cant like talk to her face to face to clear my "doubt"
jikey said the following on 27-08-10 14:27
Well, maybe a short dinner to spend quality time with her will do the trick. For a friend who thinks little of her existence, you can try to spend time with her to appreciate her existence.
During the dinner, she may tell you her problems. But don't fret even if she don't coz as time pass by, both of you will build up a rather slow and steady friendship la.
No matter what she's facing, just let ur friend know that you are always here and i guess that would be enough.
jiayou! dont worry!